Are you competitive? I didn’t think I was. I didn’t participate in organized sports much when I was in school; I was in band, but didn’t play a popular instrument so there wasn’t much competition; I didn’t do debate or try out for drama. I was a good student and an introvert, so I didn’t really like competition. Or so I thought. But thinking back, anything I did, I wanted to be the best. I wanted to win all the awards, be teacher’s pet for all the teachers, get the highest scores on tests. Sounds pretty competitive, right?
Why do we feel the need to compete? What is it in our DNA that makes us so competitive? Is it our caveman ancestors competing with the dinosaurs not to be lunch? That could be. And competition as a life-saving measure is inevitable. We HAVE to win. But what about our other competitive streaks? Does anyone but you really care who has the most expensive wardrobe? Does anyone but you really care who has the newest designer purse? Does anyone but you really care who has the nicest car, the nicest house, the most manicured lawn, the highest paid job, the most hired help? The answer to all of those questions should be NO! Unfortunately, our culture has made it seem that those things are all status symbols and determine our worth in society. But do they really?
Unfortunately, to the people who are measuring using those metrics, it DOES matter. But to your neighbor, co-worker, or friends, it shouldn’t. And if it does matter to your friends, you need a different set of friends. You don’t need to measure yourself with those metrics, and anyone who feels the need to measure you that way doesn’t need to be in your life. Life is not about who dies with the most toys; it really is about living, loving, laughing, and being passionate about each one of those.
In the end, who are we really competing with anyway? Get up and go look in the mirror. That, my friends, is really the only competition you have. That beautiful, strong, amazing person in the mirror is your only competition. And the only competition you need to have with yourself is that you were better today than you were yesterday and you’ll be better tomorrow than you were today. Every day is truly a gift and a chance to be your best you. So grab each day by the balls and let it know who is boss. And that boss would be your competition—that face in the mirror—YOU!
I am a 60-something woman who is 5% sassy and 95% audacious. Those percentages change daily! I blog about proofreading in a legal setting (because that’s what I do) at proofthatblog.com and about turning 60 and all the life lessons I learned along the way at 60isthenew60blog.com. I am the mother of two, grandmother of eight, and still married to my high school sweetheart.
I love life and love watching other people grow and develop into amazing human beings. My goal in life is to leave it better because I helped, taught, and mentored others and my life motto is “Live Your Dash” which is the dash between the day you are born and the day you die and I’m doing the very best I can to cram that dash full of love and adventure.
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