So the journey to body positivity usually starts with someone being fed up with dieting because it hasn’t worked for them in the past (usually it’s made things worse, in fact), and they just don’t want to be at war with their own bodies anymore. Is this where you are? Are you asking yourself, “But what now?” Yeah, I get it.
It’s not like you can just opt-out of our fat shaming culture; right? You can’t just say, “Well, that sucked, so I’m just going to magically toss out all that negative garbage I’ve been bombarded with my whole life.” So what can you do?
1. Let the people in your life know you’re no longer going to participate in discussions about weight loss. Full stop. Something like, “Hey, I’m glad that’s working for you/your friend/that guy on TV, but I’m not participating in weight loss talk anymore. Thanks for understanding” usually does the trick. If they don’t get it or keep pushing, you can let them know you’re going to leave the conversation if they can’t move on to a new topic.
2. Throw out scales and “goal weight” clothes. You don’t need them. They’re not making you feel better. So let them go.
3. Find body positive spaces to hang out in. Support is crucial in the early part of your journey.
4. Read loads of body positive (and even…yes, FAT ACCEPTANCE :gasp:!) sites, books, and articles.
5. Spend time journaling what you’re gaining from opting out of self-hatred.
This list isn’t comprehensive by any means; it wasn’t intended to be really. These are some good steps to get you moving forward is all. Do you have some tips to help others who are just getting started, too? Let us know in the comments!
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