I was going to write a post that was pretty whiny. In fact, I started it and got a few paragraphs in and realized that’s not how I want this site to be. We’re not here to cry about how hard it is to be fat in a thin world. You already know that. I’m not here to detail all the little bullshit things that come with being superfat. (What? It’s a thing.)
What I want is for women who read this site to walk away thinking, “Okay. I can do this.” or “Hey, maybe I don’t have to kick my own ass all the time.” (Warning: these sites are probably not safe for work or kids. You should check them in a private space before trying to open them somewhere like your job.)
To that end, I’m here to recommend a few sites/folks for you to follow because I’ve found them helpful on my journey. Some of them I found early on; some are more recent. But literally all of them regularly help me remember my worth isn’t determined by what the number on the scale says.
Dances with Fat – Ragen is a delight. She updates her Facebook profile pretty frequently, as well, and her fat acceptance is pretty intersectional. (When she screws up, she owns it and makes amends, and that is fucking amazing.)
The Adipositivity Project – this project was super difficult for me to look at initially. I had so much internalized shame about my weight, I just couldn’t handle looking at people who were proudly displaying their fat bodies. But I kept looking because I wanted the confidence and happiness I see in these photos. It helped. A lot.
Tess Holliday – I just…this, for me, is the face of “body positivity.” Tess just OWNS shit. Also of note, she’s the first plus size model who had a body that looked like mine rather than some slightly larger than usual hot chick. That made being seen as sexy feel more attainable to me. Because Tess is sexy AF.
The Body Is not an Apology – probably one of the first blogs I read that covered intersectional fat acceptance. If you’re ready to get “woke,” this is a good place to start.
Shakesville – “A progressive feminist blog about politics, culture, social justice, cute things, and all that is in between.” But this was probably the first blog I read and said, “HEY! THAT’S TRUE!” and picked up rebuttals for the concern trolling, healthism, etc. that I face regularly as one of the “superfat.”
So there you have it, friend. Some light reading to start your week. HA! I hope these sites help you as much as they’ve helped me. Did I miss a really fantastic site? Tell me in the comments!!
Wife to Bill.
Mother of Matt, Lenna, and Tricia.
Managing Editor of Audaciously Fat.
Mammalian servant to an avian despot, Courtney Lovebird.
Deliriously happy about all of it.