So I decided I was going to try to go 3o days without complaining because it felt like the Universe (or God or whatever Higher Power you want) was sort of coming at me about how much I complain. First, there was a video from Gary Vee about how utterly useless complaining is. (It is.) Then, I read a PDF from Todd Herman about the OWW v. WOW mindset. AND THEN, someone posted an article about how positivity can actually reduce symptoms for those with auto-immune conditions. You see I had no choice; right? When the Universe throws things at you like that, it’s in your own best interest to pay attention.
One thing I’ve learned from this is that I complain a lot. I mean, a LOT. It kind of felt like I couldn’t talk the first couple of days because I had no idea what to say without complaining. That was a huge wake-up call for me. That is a moment when you say to yourself, “Self, look. We have some work to do.” I restart the challenge every time I complain. So I’m on Day One still. A week after I started this thing. I’m kind of okay with that, though. I’m learning, and I’m getting better. I have people holding me accountable, and they’re pretty nice about pointing out I’m being a whiner without actually saying, “OMG. SHUT UP, WHINER.” So that’s a real blessing.
Also, I’m learning how to count my blessings, and I’m learning to stop and look for solutions instead of just bitching about the problem. I’m also learning to take a deep breath and be as kind to others as I’d like them to be to me. That’s really been a huge bonus here because one thing I’ve realized if I don’t treat others decently, I don’t feel so great about myself. Which…duh. Of course not, and that’s as it should be. We shouldn’t get to be assholes and then feel great about ourselves, but that lesson is really, really sinking in for me.
So, yeah. I’m on Day One (which should really be Day Seven) of a 30 Days of No Complaining challenge. Wish me luck, and please share any tips you might have? Please?
Wife to Bill.
Mother of Matt, Lenna, and Tricia.
Managing Editor of Audaciously Fat.
Mammalian servant to an avian despot, Courtney Lovebird.
Deliriously happy about all of it.